May 13, 2013
quillusquillus: drowningxlessons: padfootxvx: theuppitynegras: thedalekmaster: transgalacticwanderer: innuendorose: stridersis: artificially-gendered: Last Wednesday one of my teachers that knows I’m trans* was talking to me in front of the class and used the wrong pronouns. 5 mins later she came up to me, handing me a really nice brand new sketch book and simply said “Merry Christmas” and walked away. I took the sketchbook and said thanks and I opened it up to find a note saying “Sorry I called you a she.” Little things like this can just make my day. THAT’S JUST REALLY AWESOME, OKAY?  OKAY. WOW SUPER NICE This is how I wish people handled apologizing, simply acknowledging their fuck up, saying their sorry (and meaning it), and not turning it into a public scene. good people :) this is nice :) I’ve had friends tell me to call them out, embarrass them, anytime they get my pronouns wrong. Except it makes me uncomfortable and I don’t like doing that. AW That looks like a really fucking nice sketchbook too God, I love this. I always get a little choked up seeing things like this. And going back to the person who says they don’t like calling their friends out: YEAH people out there in the world, I’d ask not to put the responsibility on your trans* friends for getting pronouns/names right but to take it on yourselves. I think it’s great that you’re supportive and want to learn as fast as possible, but it’s hard to interrupt a conversation every time a misgendering happens, with every person it happens with, every day and every place I go for the rest of my life. Sometimes it doesn’t feel worth it, and sometimes it feels like I’m overreacting. I have to make a decision if it’s worth the energy time someone slips up—or maybe they just don’t understand, and I have to decide if it’s worth the explanation or worth making it feel bad—or if it’s easier to spend the rest of the day, week, or even month feeling mildly upset and disgusted with myself for not speaking up. Just something I’ve been thinking about after a big extended family gathering where I got a mixed bag as far as gendering goes.

quillusquillus:

drowningxlessons:

padfootxvx:

theuppitynegras:

thedalekmaster:

transgalacticwanderer:

innuendorose:

stridersis:

artificially-gendered:

Last Wednesday one of my teachers that knows I’m trans* was talking to me in front of the class and used the wrong pronouns. 5 mins later she came up to me, handing me a really nice brand new sketch book and simply said “Merry Christmas” and walked away. I took the sketchbook and said thanks and I opened it up to find a note saying “Sorry I called you a she.” Little things like this can just make my day.

THAT’S JUST REALLY AWESOME, OKAY?  OKAY.

WOW SUPER NICE

This is how I wish people handled apologizing, simply acknowledging their fuck up, saying their sorry (and meaning it), and not turning it into a public scene.

good people :)

this is nice :)

I’ve had friends tell me to call them out, embarrass them, anytime they get my pronouns wrong. Except it makes me uncomfortable and I don’t like doing that.

AW

That looks like a really fucking nice sketchbook too

God, I love this. I always get a little choked up seeing things like this. And going back to the person who says they don’t like calling their friends out:

YEAH people out there in the world, I’d ask not to put the responsibility on your trans* friends for getting pronouns/names right but to take it on yourselves. I think it’s great that you’re supportive and want to learn as fast as possible, but it’s hard to interrupt a conversation every time a misgendering happens, with every person it happens with, every day and every place I go for the rest of my life. Sometimes it doesn’t feel worth it, and sometimes it feels like I’m overreacting. I have to make a decision if it’s worth the energy time someone slips up—or maybe they just don’t understand, and I have to decide if it’s worth the explanation or worth making it feel bad—or if it’s easier to spend the rest of the day, week, or even month feeling mildly upset and disgusted with myself for not speaking up.

Just something I’ve been thinking about after a big extended family gathering where I got a mixed bag as far as gendering goes.

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Filed under: trans trans* transgender soapbox ashside 
April 3, 2013

combaticus:

auxil:

do people really think there’s this sudden influx of gay/lesbian/bisexual/trans* people because it’s “hip” and “cool” now or some shit you realize that there are just as many gay/lesbian/bisexual/trans* people as there were in any point in history it’s just throughout most of history you didn’t hear about any of them because it was REALLY FUCKING UNSAFE TO BE ANY OF THOSE THINGS.

personally, i’d recommend dropping thousands of dollars on medical and legal expenses to anyone. putting yourself through the ringer mentally, physically, emotionally, financially, socially, and societally is all the rage. risking your life to have something that most people are born with is very in. very now.

#ps. was? i think you mean is.

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Filed under: lgbtq soapbox 
April 2, 2013
anlevines: truthisweirder: From the designer: My Facebook and G+ newsfeeds have been filled with pink and red lately, so it seemed important to point out to the queer and allied in my life that Human Rights Campaign actually has a track record of promoting some rights at the expense of others. Being a fairly rough-and-tumble sort of cisgender queer man, I waded in. It’s frankly unconscionable; transgender rights are integral to queer liberation, and moreover transfolks are our sisters and brothers, have shed the same blood, sweat, and tears in horrifying numbers for the same goals. The fact that names like Virginia Prince and Sylvia Rae Rivera aren’t as prominent in our histories as Harvey Milk says, I think, all it needs to about the need for some pink and purple soul-searching. Go forth and introspect. Visually, too, I think the HRC equality logo leaves a bit to be desired, but I made minimal changes. The colors are based on the transgender pride flag designed by Monica Helms in 1999, the most widely used of several designs and to my eye, the most pleasing. Considering that HRC seems to be continuing to give lip service to trans folks while throwing them under the bus, this is important and timely. People need to know that the most visible LGBT “equality” organization out there continues to only fight for gay and lesbian equality at the expense of everyone else.Trans allies, please repost. (And don’t give money to HRC.) The lack of notes on this is troubling to me.

anlevines:

truthisweirder:

From the designer:

My Facebook and G+ newsfeeds have been filled with pink and red lately, so it seemed important to point out to the queer and allied in my life that Human Rights Campaign actually has a track record of promoting some rights at the expense of others. Being a fairly rough-and-tumble sort of cisgender queer man, I waded in.

It’s frankly unconscionable; transgender rights are integral to queer liberation, and moreover transfolks are our sisters and brothers, have shed the same blood, sweat, and tears in horrifying numbers for the same goals. The fact that names like Virginia Prince and Sylvia Rae Rivera aren’t as prominent in our histories as Harvey Milk says, I think, all it needs to about the need for some pink and purple soul-searching. Go forth and introspect.

Visually, too, I think the HRC equality logo leaves a bit to be desired, but I made minimal changes. The colors are based on the transgender pride flag designed by Monica Helms in 1999, the most widely used of several designs and to my eye, the most pleasing.

Considering that HRC seems to be continuing to give lip service to trans folks while throwing them under the bus, this is important and timely.

People need to know that the most visible LGBT “equality” organization out there continues to only fight for gay and lesbian equality at the expense of everyone else.

Trans allies, please repost. (And don’t give money to HRC.)

The lack of notes on this is troubling to me.

(via koryfoides)

12:22pm  |   URL: http://tmblr.co/ZXhuqxhkjGAW
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Filed under: transgender trans trans* lgbtq lgbt signal boost soapbox 
February 8, 2013

gaius-cassius-longinus:

fun prank; tell women they’re only good for romance, sex, and having children. and then laugh at them for wanting romance, shame them for having sex, and act like they have to give up all facets of their personalities if they become mothers

I was just thinking this in the shower this morning

(Source: taeko-yasuhiros, via aestian)

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Filed under: feminism soapbox 
January 30, 2013
Support Changing the Boy Scouts’ Ban on Gay Members!

The Boy Scouts of America are accepting public feedback about changing their policy to accept homosexuals as scouts and scout leaders. All you have to do is call 972-580-2330 and say “for” to the representative who answers to show your support!

They also have an email here at nationalsupportcenter@scouting.org, though I don’t know how they’re counting digital feedback.

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Filed under: lgbt lgbtq boy scouts queer issues signal boost queer soapbox 
January 28, 2013
"Young men need to be socialized in such a way that rape is as unthinkable to them as cannibalism."

— Mary Pipher, Clinical Psychologist and Author, Reviving Ophelia. (via anarchyagogo)

(Source: sunshine-machine, via briennnes)

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Filed under: feminism Violence against women rape tw: rape soapbox 
January 23, 2013

sammyhider:

bearlyanimating:

cjshark:


Attention: Lesbians, gays, bisexuals, pansexuals, trisexuals, asexuals, transgender, transsexuals, genderqueer, cisgenders and the rest of the human spectrum.


This is Rad. Rad identifies as a lesbian, and she is 100% female. Recently she has taken the leap into telling one of the biggest secrets of her life.

She was a male to female transgender.

Yes, she was born male and identifies now as female and has recently completed ALL the surgeries in becoming who she is now: Rad, the woman we all know today.

Since Rad has come out as mtf on tumblr, with the love and support of her (not yet, but more than likely soon) girlfriend, Chelsea Skye, she as well as her girlfriend have received nothing but hate and threats from the anons of tumblr.

She is being told how she isn’t a woman, and how she is confused and needs help and being disrespected just for being who she is.

Her girlfriend on the other hand has been getting messages calling Rad horrible names, and telling Chelsea how she is a fake lesbian for dating a mtf.

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THIS IS NOT ACCEPTABLE.

If someone identifies as female. They are female. If someone identifies as male, they are male. If you don’t understand it, ask.

DO NOT ATTACK SOMEONE FOR BEING WHO THEY ARE. IT IS THEIR LIFE NOT YOURS.

On tumblr in the trans* community we’ve seen too many good people fall in fear of being who they are. Nobody deserves to hear these things, and nobody deserves to be told they are something they are not, and absolutely nobody deserves to be attacked by grey faces with nothing but ignorance and negativity to say.

Rad, you are an absolutely beautiful woman, and you and Chelsea are absolutely the most beautiful couple I’ve ever seen. Don’t ever think you aren’t woman enough, don’t ever think that you will never be enough; because you are. I sincerely apologize for the ignorance of tumblr users and the way that they are treating you and Chelsea.

Please do not let the anons of tumblr get to you or make you feel down, scared or alone. We as the tumblr trans* community and allies have your back.

We promise.

Genuinely don’t understand all these fucks who have had to deal with people hating on them for who they are hating on people for who they are. Go eat shit until you’re willing to grow up.

do people really have nothing better to do than sit around attacking other people? whatever it is that’s keeping you from understanding that this girl is human and deserves the same fucking respect you do, get over it on your own damn time. until you do, stay the fuck away from the real world. you’re obviously not ready for it.

This is not an uncommon phenomenon and that makes me sad, but seeing understanding and supportive people helps, too. Wishing these two the best!

(via combaticus)

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Filed under: transgender trans* trans transphobia lgbtq lgbt soapbox 
January 21, 2013
private-revolution: madamethursday: [Image: A picture of a tall, very thin Black woman with her shoulder over a shorter, older white man wearing traditional Orthodox Jewish clothing on a New York sideway.] staghunts: “This one is very serious, guys: I came upon these two on the sidewalk. They were having a conversation. “Excuse me,” I said, addressing the girl: “I’m sorry to interrupt, but is there anyway I can take your photo?” “Why would you want my photo?” she asked. “Because you look beautiful,” I said. And she did. She was Sudanese. There is a very distinct beauty among people from the Sudan, and she was filled up with it. Suddenly the man cut in:  “I was just telling her she was beautiful,” he said.  Naively, I assumed I had just walked up on one stranger giving a compliment to another. I wanted to capture the moment. “Let me take your photograph together,” I said. The man seemed reluctant, he started smiling nervously and inching away. But the girl called him back.  “Come take a picture with me,” she said. Encouraged by her attention, he returned. She put her arm around him, and I took the photo. As I examined the photos on my camera, the man started whispering to the girl. She answered him in a loud voice: “I told you! I’m not that kind of girl.” She seemed agitated now. Finally sensing that I had misread the situation, I stepped between them. The man began hurrying down the sidewalk. When the man left, the girl’s demeanor changed completely. She seemed shaken. Her eyes were tearing up. “He just offered me five hundred dollars to go out with him,” she said. “And then when I said ‘no,’ he offered me one thousand. Why does this always happen to me?” “It happens a lot?” I asked. “All the time,” she said. “I’m sorry I’m getting emotional. I just can’t go out of my house without this kind of thing happening. I have a son. I’m a mother. I would never degrade myself like that. I just don’t understand why this keeps happening.” “Do you mind if I tell this story?” I asked. “Please,” she said. “Tell it.” Let’s hope this man, and all men, realize the emotional damage they are inflicting on the women they try to buy. In the meantime, feel free to SHARE.* Dear Tumblr, fuck you for trying to erase this.  I’m saving this post because as many times as Tumblr tries to erase this woman’s story and act like anything about this was okay, that’s as many times as I’m reposting it. They can either cut me off or stop being assnuggets about this. whichEVER.  Bringing this back because we’re 20 days into 2013 and I have yet to see this post.

private-revolution:

madamethursday:

[Image: A picture of a tall, very thin Black woman with her shoulder over a shorter, older white man wearing traditional Orthodox Jewish clothing on a New York sideway.]

staghunts:

“This one is very serious, guys:

I came upon these two on the sidewalk. They were having a conversation. “Excuse me,” I said, addressing the girl: “I’m sorry to interrupt, but is there anyway I can take your photo?”

“Why would you want my photo?” she asked.

“Because you look beautiful,” I said. And she did. She was Sudanese. There is a very distinct beauty among people from the Sudan, and she was filled up with it. Suddenly the man cut in: 

“I was just telling her she was beautiful,” he said. 

Naively, I assumed I had just walked up on one stranger giving a compliment to another. I wanted to capture the moment. “Let me take your photograph together,” I said. The man seemed reluctant, he started smiling nervously and inching away. But the girl called him back. 

“Come take a picture with me,” she said. Encouraged by her attention, he returned. She put her arm around him, and I took the photo.

As I examined the photos on my camera, the man started whispering to the girl. She answered him in a loud voice: “I told you! I’m not that kind of girl.” She seemed agitated now. Finally sensing that I had misread the situation, I stepped between them. The man began hurrying down the sidewalk.

When the man left, the girl’s demeanor changed completely. She seemed shaken. Her eyes were tearing up. “He just offered me five hundred dollars to go out with him,” she said. “And then when I said ‘no,’ he offered me one thousand. Why does this always happen to me?”

“It happens a lot?” I asked.

“All the time,” she said. “I’m sorry I’m getting emotional. I just can’t go out of my house without this kind of thing happening. I have a son. I’m a mother. I would never degrade myself like that. I just don’t understand why this keeps happening.”

“Do you mind if I tell this story?” I asked.

“Please,” she said. “Tell it.”

Let’s hope this man, and all men, realize the emotional damage they are inflicting on the women they try to buy. In the meantime, feel free to SHARE.*

Dear Tumblr, fuck you for trying to erase this. 

I’m saving this post because as many times as Tumblr tries to erase this woman’s story and act like anything about this was okay, that’s as many times as I’m reposting it. They can either cut me off or stop being assnuggets about this. whichEVER. 

Bringing this back because we’re 20 days into 2013 and I have yet to see this post.

(via nerdphobia)

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Filed under: abuse Violence against women soapbox signal boost 
January 18, 2013

owlgriffin:

sarahfu:

i want to be excited about urbance because WOW IT IS GORGEOUS but

it’s using normalized homosexuality (due to a ”’virus”’) as a framing device for ~omg poor star-crossed heterosexuals~ yo if you want a forbidden romance can you be more creative about it than just setting it in a fictional world where straight people experience what gays experience in the real world

Amy is a hottie but also appears to be an over-the-top misandrist caricature (maybe not??? we shall see)

my biggest cringe came when i read the character profiles - the mediators, oh my fucking god. whoa they’re androgynous!! can’t tell if they’re men or women, SCARY!!!! keepin the good heteros of the world apart.

this is like some homophobic art student’s magnum opus ugh

I just wish people would take a second and go ‘wait… gays are already living in a dystopia why don’t I write about that’ but of course, no.

Aw man. Is it really doing that? Dang.

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Filed under: soapbox 
January 16, 2013
"You guys know about vampires? … You know, vampires have no reflections in a mirror? There’s this idea that monsters don’t have reflections in a mirror. And what I’ve always thought isn’t that monsters don’t have reflections in a mirror. It’s that if you want to make a human being into a monster, deny them, at the cultural level, any reflection of themselves. And growing up, I felt like a monster in some ways. I didn’t see myself reflected at all. I was like, “Yo, is something wrong with me? That the whole society seems to think that people like me don’t exist? And part of what inspired me, was this deep desire that before I died, I would make a couple of mirrors. That I would make some mirrors so that kids like me might see themselves reflected back and might not feel so monstrous for it."

—

Junot Diaz (via alzati)

My keyboard does not contain enough THIS.

(via littlepinkbeast)

THIS THIS THIS is why i write adventure stories with gay protagonists.

(via jumpingjacktrash)

(Source: issarae, via glampersand)

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