June 6, 2014
"If you were a computer-loving male child who took a lot of shit from your peers, I suspect you heard something similar from the adults in your life. Maybe it was “Sure, things are bad now, but when you’re a little bit older, women will LOVE guys like you!” Or maybe it was “That kid who makes fun of you now will be working at a gas station when you run a big fancy computer company and marry a supermodel!” If you were once young, nerdy and male, it is not unlikely that your future sense of self-worth was funded with a non-consensual IOU from the world’s women. It’s taken me a long time, but at this point I genuinely believe that much of this “GEEKS SHALL INHERIT THE EARTH” rhetoric is little more than patriarchy’s bespectacled wingman. It excuses the pain that systems of power exert on children by promising little boys future dominion over little girls. It is deeply and massively fucked."

What (Else) Can Men Do? Grow The Fuck Up. — Medium (via erikalynae)

That whole “they’ll be serving you fries and you’ll be a rich big shot” rhetoric is super classist too. Being poor/working in a minimum wage service role is not a punishment for past wrongs, and it’s really fucked up that we act like it is/should be.

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August 12, 2013
thefrogman:

I think the time for opinions is over. I’m sick of people having opinions on whether or not they should respect fellow human beings.
In my mind there are only facts. It is a fact that they should be treated and respected the same as everyone else. They deserve all the same rights and privileges. It’s really not that complicated and it boggles my mind that there are people trying to prevent that from happening. 

thefrogman:

I think the time for opinions is over. I’m sick of people having opinions on whether or not they should respect fellow human beings.

In my mind there are only facts. It is a fact that they should be treated and respected the same as everyone else. They deserve all the same rights and privileges. It’s really not that complicated and it boggles my mind that there are people trying to prevent that from happening. 

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July 7, 2013
anarcho-queer:

middlemarching:

anarcho-queer:

While the head honchos at the HRC are making 6 figure salaries from donations to support ‘marriage equality’, hundreds of thousands of LGBTQ youth are homeless and are purposely ignored by mainstream gay organizations. The ‘fight’ for same sex marriage has proven to be a profitable business for gay ‘non-profit’ businesses, so it’s no wonder why gay marriage overshadows all other LGBTQ issues. After all, helping the needy results in smaller pay.
Supporting gay marriage doesn’t mean you support the queer struggle. In fact, most ‘allies’ and even a large portion of more fortunate queers don’t know the facts about LGBTQ homelessness, violence against trans* people, high unemployment, discrimination, etc, nor do they bother to research it. They are just concerned about their favorite gay celebrities being able to tie the knot.
If you care about the queer struggle, take a minute of your day to familiarize yourself with some of the disturbing statistics:
20- 40% of homeless youth are LGBTQ. In comparison, the general youth population is only 3-10% LGBTQ.
LGBTQ youth are twice as likely to experience sexual abuse before the age of 12.
LGBTQ youth, once homeless, are at higher risk for victimization, mental health problems, and unsafe sexual practices. 58.7% of LGBTQ homeless youth have been sexually victimized compared to 33.4% of heterosexual homeless youth
LGBTQ youth are roughly 7.4 times more likely to experience acts of sexual violence than heterosexual homeless youth
LGBTQ homeless youth commit suicide at higher rates (62%) than heterosexual homeless youth (29%)
At least 20% of ALL transgender people will be homeless sometime in their life.
29% of transgender people reported being turned away from a homeless shelter due to their transgender status.
Please consider taking action to help combat LGBTQ homelessness. I suggest making a donation to the Ali Forney Center or volunteering at your local LGBTQ homeless shelter.
P.S. Fuck the HRC!

I will always plug GLBT Advocacy & Youth Services every time a post like this comes across my dashboard. It is a new organization but is making enormous strides in North Alabama, and also includes a host home program for youth caught in the 18/19 age gap that can financially ruin so many queer youth. (In the state of Alabama, you are not legally recognized as an adult until you are nineteen years old, meaning that if you are kicked out of your house by your parents at age eighteen, you can’t sign a lease on an apartment.)

Reblogging for the commentary and to add a list of LGBTQ homeless shelters and support services. If you know of any other states/cities/towns with LGBTQ shelters, please add on to the list with a link.


California
Chicago
Colorado
Florida
Georgia
Illinois
Indiana
Iowa
Massachusetts
Michigan
Minnesota
New York
North Carolina
Utah
Vermont
Washington
Wisconsin
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anarcho-queer:

middlemarching:

anarcho-queer:

While the head honchos at the HRC are making 6 figure salaries from donations to support ‘marriage equality’, hundreds of thousands of LGBTQ youth are homeless and are purposely ignored by mainstream gay organizations. The ‘fight’ for same sex marriage has proven to be a profitable business for gay ‘non-profit’ businesses, so it’s no wonder why gay marriage overshadows all other LGBTQ issues. After all, helping the needy results in smaller pay.

Supporting gay marriage doesn’t mean you support the queer struggle. In fact, most ‘allies’ and even a large portion of more fortunate queers don’t know the facts about LGBTQ homelessness, violence against trans* people, high unemployment, discrimination, etc, nor do they bother to research it. They are just concerned about their favorite gay celebrities being able to tie the knot.

If you care about the queer struggle, take a minute of your day to familiarize yourself with some of the disturbing statistics:

  • 20- 40% of homeless youth are LGBTQ. In comparison, the general youth population is only 3-10% LGBTQ.
  • LGBTQ youth are twice as likely to experience sexual abuse before the age of 12.
  • LGBTQ youth, once homeless, are at higher risk for victimization, mental health problems, and unsafe sexual practices. 58.7% of LGBTQ homeless youth have been sexually victimized compared to 33.4% of heterosexual homeless youth
  • LGBTQ youth are roughly 7.4 times more likely to experience acts of sexual violence than heterosexual homeless youth
  • LGBTQ homeless youth commit suicide at higher rates (62%) than heterosexual homeless youth (29%)
  • At least 20% of ALL transgender people will be homeless sometime in their life.
  • 29% of transgender people reported being turned away from a homeless shelter due to their transgender status.

Please consider taking action to help combat LGBTQ homelessness. I suggest making a donation to the Ali Forney Center or volunteering at your local LGBTQ homeless shelter.

P.S. Fuck the HRC!

I will always plug GLBT Advocacy & Youth Services every time a post like this comes across my dashboard. It is a new organization but is making enormous strides in North Alabama, and also includes a host home program for youth caught in the 18/19 age gap that can financially ruin so many queer youth. (In the state of Alabama, you are not legally recognized as an adult until you are nineteen years old, meaning that if you are kicked out of your house by your parents at age eighteen, you can’t sign a lease on an apartment.)

Reblogging for the commentary and to add a list of LGBTQ homeless shelters and support services. If you know of any other states/cities/towns with LGBTQ shelters, please add on to the list with a link.

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July 1, 2013

babyshibe:

UK court confirms: stealth trans people having sex are criminals.

The background: a trans man had sex with a cis woman. Both parties were over the age of consent (which is 16 in the UK). Both parties stated consent at the time. The sex involved genital contact and penetration with tongue and fingers, but did not involve penis-in-vagina sex; there is therefore no ‘deception’ along the lines of ‘he inserted a strap-on and told me it was flesh-and-blood’. The man has now been prosecuted for ‘sex by deception’ because he didn’t disclose his assigned gender, and lost his appeal against this sentence. 

In the UK, case law has set a precedent that having sex without disclosing HIV positivity, wealth, age or marital status does not invalidate consent. That is, if you have sex with someone who you believe to be a HIV-negative, rich, single 30-year-old man and he informs you the next day that he’s a HIV-positive, poor, married 50-year-old, there is nothing that can be legally done; you consented and that’s that. This does not apply to trans status. It is illegal not to disclose that you were female-assigned but not illegal not to disclose that you have HIV. Furthermore, it’s not enough to just say this - it needs to be provable in a court of law. Written consent is thus basically required.

It’s unclear whether a trans person who has a GRC (legal recognition on their birth certificate of a change of gender) could be prosecuted, but evidently just being trans is insufficient - the man in this case has done enough to be protected under trans equality law in the UK. This incidentally also means that a trans man who had had phalloplasty but didn’t have a GRC, which not everyone does, would fall into the same category as Scott did. The ruling is about birth assignment and not just about what body parts you do or don’t have.

The full text of the judgement is here. TW applies on the link for transphobia and misgendering. I think this development is utterly terrifying; it criminalises consensual sexual acts between adults.

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May 13, 2013
quillusquillus:

drowningxlessons:

padfootxvx:

theuppitynegras:

thedalekmaster:

transgalacticwanderer:

innuendorose:

stridersis:

artificially-gendered:

Last Wednesday one of my teachers that knows I’m trans* was talking to me in front of the class and used the wrong pronouns. 5 mins later she came up to me, handing me a really nice brand new sketch book and simply said “Merry Christmas” and walked away. I took the sketchbook and said thanks and I opened it up to find a note saying “Sorry I called you a she.” Little things like this can just make my day.

THAT’S JUST REALLY AWESOME, OKAY?  OKAY.

WOW SUPER NICE

This is how I wish people handled apologizing, simply acknowledging their fuck up, saying their sorry (and meaning it), and not turning it into a public scene.

good people :)

this is nice :)

I’ve had friends tell me to call them out, embarrass them, anytime they get my pronouns wrong. Except it makes me uncomfortable and I don’t like doing that.

AW

That looks like a really fucking nice sketchbook too

God, I love this. I always get a little choked up seeing things like this. And going back to the person who says they don’t like calling their friends out:
YEAH people out there in the world, I’d ask not to put the responsibility on your trans* friends for getting pronouns/names right but to take it on yourselves. I think it’s great that you’re supportive and want to learn as fast as possible, but it’s hard to interrupt a conversation every time a misgendering happens, with every person it happens with, every day and every place I go for the rest of my life. Sometimes it doesn’t feel worth it, and sometimes it feels like I’m overreacting. I have to make a decision if it’s worth the energy time someone slips up—or maybe they just don’t understand, and I have to decide if it’s worth the explanation or worth making it feel bad—or if it’s easier to spend the rest of the day, week, or even month feeling mildly upset and disgusted with myself for not speaking up.
Just something I’ve been thinking about after a big extended family gathering where I got a mixed bag as far as gendering goes.

quillusquillus:

drowningxlessons:

padfootxvx:

theuppitynegras:

thedalekmaster:

transgalacticwanderer:

innuendorose:

stridersis:

artificially-gendered:

Last Wednesday one of my teachers that knows I’m trans* was talking to me in front of the class and used the wrong pronouns. 5 mins later she came up to me, handing me a really nice brand new sketch book and simply said “Merry Christmas” and walked away. I took the sketchbook and said thanks and I opened it up to find a note saying “Sorry I called you a she.” Little things like this can just make my day.

THAT’S JUST REALLY AWESOME, OKAY?  OKAY.

WOW SUPER NICE

This is how I wish people handled apologizing, simply acknowledging their fuck up, saying their sorry (and meaning it), and not turning it into a public scene.

good people :)

this is nice :)

I’ve had friends tell me to call them out, embarrass them, anytime they get my pronouns wrong. Except it makes me uncomfortable and I don’t like doing that.

AW

That looks like a really fucking nice sketchbook too

God, I love this. I always get a little choked up seeing things like this. And going back to the person who says they don’t like calling their friends out:

YEAH people out there in the world, I’d ask not to put the responsibility on your trans* friends for getting pronouns/names right but to take it on yourselves. I think it’s great that you’re supportive and want to learn as fast as possible, but it’s hard to interrupt a conversation every time a misgendering happens, with every person it happens with, every day and every place I go for the rest of my life. Sometimes it doesn’t feel worth it, and sometimes it feels like I’m overreacting. I have to make a decision if it’s worth the energy time someone slips up—or maybe they just don’t understand, and I have to decide if it’s worth the explanation or worth making it feel bad—or if it’s easier to spend the rest of the day, week, or even month feeling mildly upset and disgusted with myself for not speaking up.

Just something I’ve been thinking about after a big extended family gathering where I got a mixed bag as far as gendering goes.

April 3, 2013

combaticus:

auxil:

do people really think there’s this sudden influx of gay/lesbian/bisexual/trans* people because it’s “hip” and “cool” now or some shit you realize that there are just as many gay/lesbian/bisexual/trans* people as there were in any point in history it’s just throughout most of history you didn’t hear about any of them because it was REALLY FUCKING UNSAFE TO BE ANY OF THOSE THINGS.

personally, i’d recommend dropping thousands of dollars on medical and legal expenses to anyone. putting yourself through the ringer mentally, physically, emotionally, financially, socially, and societally is all the rage. risking your life to have something that most people are born with is very in. very now.

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April 2, 2013
anlevines:

truthisweirder:

From the designer:

My Facebook and G+ newsfeeds have been filled with pink and red lately, so it seemed important to point out to the queer and allied in my life that Human Rights Campaign actually has a track record of promoting some rights at the expense of others. Being a fairly rough-and-tumble sort of cisgender queer man, I waded in.
It’s frankly unconscionable; transgender rights are integral to queer liberation, and moreover transfolks are our sisters and brothers, have shed the same blood, sweat, and tears in horrifying numbers for the same goals. The fact that names like Virginia Prince and Sylvia Rae Rivera aren’t as prominent in our histories as Harvey Milk says, I think, all it needs to about the need for some pink and purple soul-searching. Go forth and introspect.
Visually, too, I think the HRC equality logo leaves a bit to be desired, but I made minimal changes. The colors are based on the transgender pride flag designed by Monica Helms in 1999, the most widely used of several designs and to my eye, the most pleasing.

Considering that HRC seems to be continuing to give lip service to trans folks while throwing them under the bus, this is important and timely.
People need to know that the most visible LGBT “equality” organization out there continues to only fight for gay and lesbian equality at the expense of everyone else.Trans allies, please repost. (And don’t give money to HRC.)

The lack of notes on this is troubling to me.

anlevines:

truthisweirder:

From the designer:

My Facebook and G+ newsfeeds have been filled with pink and red lately, so it seemed important to point out to the queer and allied in my life that Human Rights Campaign actually has a track record of promoting some rights at the expense of others. Being a fairly rough-and-tumble sort of cisgender queer man, I waded in.

It’s frankly unconscionable; transgender rights are integral to queer liberation, and moreover transfolks are our sisters and brothers, have shed the same blood, sweat, and tears in horrifying numbers for the same goals. The fact that names like Virginia Prince and Sylvia Rae Rivera aren’t as prominent in our histories as Harvey Milk says, I think, all it needs to about the need for some pink and purple soul-searching. Go forth and introspect.

Visually, too, I think the HRC equality logo leaves a bit to be desired, but I made minimal changes. The colors are based on the transgender pride flag designed by Monica Helms in 1999, the most widely used of several designs and to my eye, the most pleasing.

Considering that HRC seems to be continuing to give lip service to trans folks while throwing them under the bus, this is important and timely.

People need to know that the most visible LGBT “equality” organization out there continues to only fight for gay and lesbian equality at the expense of everyone else.

Trans allies, please repost. (And don’t give money to HRC.)

The lack of notes on this is troubling to me.

(Source: truthisweirder, via koryfoides)

February 8, 2013

gaius-cassius-longinus:

fun prank; tell women they’re only good for romance, sex, and having children. and then laugh at them for wanting romance, shame them for having sex, and act like they have to give up all facets of their personalities if they become mothers

I was just thinking this in the shower this morning

(Source: dr-erland, via aestian)

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Filed under: feminism soapbox 
January 30, 2013
Support Changing the Boy Scouts’ Ban on Gay Members!

The Boy Scouts of America are accepting public feedback about changing their policy to accept homosexuals as scouts and scout leaders. All you have to do is call 972-580-2330 and say “for” to the representative who answers to show your support!

They also have an email here at nationalsupportcenter@scouting.org, though I don’t know how they’re counting digital feedback.

January 29, 2013
"Young men need to be socialized in such a way that rape is as unthinkable to them as cannibalism."

— Mary Pipher, Clinical Psychologist and Author, Reviving Ophelia. (via anarchyagogo)

(Source: sunshine-machine, via briennnes)

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