When people say they don’t want their kids ‘influenced’ by seeing homosexuality portrayed on tv, in books, in public, etc, what they’re really saying is ‘if my kid isn’t straight, I want them to be too uneducated to understand so they’ll be forced to stay in the closet and it doesn’t become my responsibility to face things that make me uncomfortable’
The last few weeks in videogame culture have seen a level of combativeness more marked and bitter than any beforehand.
First, a developer—a woman who makes games who has had so much piled on to her that I don’t want to perpetuate things by naming her—was the target of a…
Anonymous said: hi, i'm sorry if this has been asked but in your powerpoint you said that the tumblr sj community is guilty of antisemitism. what kind of things has it done? also, i love your blog!
I’ll take this one since I’m the blog’s resident Jew. Oy vey, where do I start…
- SJ community loves to police Jewish identity and silence actual Jews when they talk about their own identities. This usually happens in context of either “Are Jews White?” or “Jewishness is just a religion” conversations. In reality, Jews are an ethnoreligious group that ethnically originated in the middle east, and while some ethnic Jews have light skin, it’s actually due to centuries of forced assimilation in European and Slavic countries through rape, which is a big reason why Jewishness is matrilineal. Furthermore, there exist Jews who do not look white at all. There are black, brown, and asian Jews who are all ethnically Jewish, and these conversations erase them.
- "Jewish privilege". Fact: It’s not a thing. It’s actually a very common anti-semitic trope that says that Jews run everything so they are not oppressed. Jews are oppressed, and face anti-semitic violence.
- "Anti-semitism is not just about Jews, there are other semitic people." While yea, there are other semitic people, the term "anti-semitism" was created by Germans in the 19th century to refer specifically to the hatred of Jews because it sounded more scientific.
- Blaming anti-semitic violence in Europe on the actions of Israel. I see this literally every single day on this site, and it’s very upsetting. Jews that live in the diaspora are not responsible for Israel’s actions, and especially should not be suffering at the hands of white people in Europe under the guise of anti-zionism.
- Finally, and this is a big pet peeve of mine. The only people I ever see reblogging posts about anti-semitism are other Jews. Even a lot of my non-Jewish followers will reblog posts about racism, sexism, homophobia, etc. but ignore posts about anti-semitism, and that as a Jew makes me feel unsafe.
That’s enough for now. If you’re interested in learning more about Jewish identity and anti-semitism, you are welcome to check out my personal blog: yochevedke. I discuss that stuff a lot.
Another Jew reblogging about anti-semitism. I’ve seen some increase in concern about this from goyim, but it’s been slow going. Hopefully we’ll pick up a big head of steam soon.
"The only people I ever see reblogging posts about anti-semitism are other Jews. Even a lot of my non-Jewish followers will reblog posts about racism, sexism, homophobia, etc. but ignore posts about anti-semitism, and that as a Jew makes me feel unsafe."
the amount with which this point in particular resonates with me is unreal
That whole “they’ll be serving you fries and you’ll be a rich big shot” rhetoric is super classist too. Being poor/working in a minimum wage service role is not a punishment for past wrongs, and it’s really fucked up that we act like it is/should be.
I think the time for opinions is over. I’m sick of people having opinions on whether or not they should respect fellow human beings.
In my mind there are only facts. It is a fact that they should be treated and respected the same as everyone else. They deserve all the same rights and privileges. It’s really not that complicated and it boggles my mind that there are people trying to prevent that from happening.
While the head honchos at the HRC are making 6 figure salaries from donations to support ‘marriage equality’, hundreds of thousands of LGBTQ youth are homeless and are purposely ignored by mainstream gay organizations. The ‘fight’ for same sex marriage has proven to be a profitable business for gay ‘non-profit’ businesses, so it’s no wonder why gay marriage overshadows all other LGBTQ issues. After all, helping the needy results in smaller pay.
Supporting gay marriage doesn’t mean you support the queer struggle. In fact, most ‘allies’ and even a large portion of more fortunate queers don’t know the facts about LGBTQ homelessness, violence against trans* people, high unemployment, discrimination, etc, nor do they bother to research it. They are just concerned about their favorite gay celebrities being able to tie the knot.
If you care about the queer struggle, take a minute of your day to familiarize yourself with some of the disturbing statistics:
- 20- 40% of homeless youth are LGBTQ. In comparison, the general youth population is only 3-10% LGBTQ.
- LGBTQ youth are twice as likely to experience sexual abuse before the age of 12.
- LGBTQ youth, once homeless, are at higher risk for victimization, mental health problems, and unsafe sexual practices. 58.7% of LGBTQ homeless youth have been sexually victimized compared to 33.4% of heterosexual homeless youth
- LGBTQ youth are roughly 7.4 times more likely to experience acts of sexual violence than heterosexual homeless youth
- LGBTQ homeless youth commit suicide at higher rates (62%) than heterosexual homeless youth (29%)
- At least 20% of ALL transgender people will be homeless sometime in their life.
- 29% of transgender people reported being turned away from a homeless shelter due to their transgender status.
Please consider taking action to help combat LGBTQ homelessness. I suggest making a donation to the Ali Forney Center or volunteering at your local LGBTQ homeless shelter.
I will always plug GLBT Advocacy & Youth Services every time a post like this comes across my dashboard. It is a new organization but is making enormous strides in North Alabama, and also includes a host home program for youth caught in the 18/19 age gap that can financially ruin so many queer youth. (In the state of Alabama, you are not legally recognized as an adult until you are nineteen years old, meaning that if you are kicked out of your house by your parents at age eighteen, you can’t sign a lease on an apartment.)
Reblogging for the commentary and to add a list of LGBTQ homeless shelters and support services. If you know of any other states/cities/towns with LGBTQ shelters, please add on to the list with a link.
The background: a trans man had sex with a cis woman. Both parties were over the age of consent (which is 16 in the UK). Both parties stated consent at the time. The sex involved genital contact and penetration with tongue and fingers, but did not involve penis-in-vagina sex; there is therefore no ‘deception’ along the lines of ‘he inserted a strap-on and told me it was flesh-and-blood’. The man has now been prosecuted for ‘sex by deception’ because he didn’t disclose his assigned gender, and lost his appeal against this sentence.
In the UK, case law has set a precedent that having sex without disclosing HIV positivity, wealth, age or marital status does not invalidate consent. That is, if you have sex with someone who you believe to be a HIV-negative, rich, single 30-year-old man and he informs you the next day that he’s a HIV-positive, poor, married 50-year-old, there is nothing that can be legally done; you consented and that’s that. This does not apply to trans status. It is illegal not to disclose that you were female-assigned but not illegal not to disclose that you have HIV. Furthermore, it’s not enough to just say this - it needs to be provable in a court of law. Written consent is thus basically required.
It’s unclear whether a trans person who has a GRC (legal recognition on their birth certificate of a change of gender) could be prosecuted, but evidently just being trans is insufficient - the man in this case has done enough to be protected under trans equality law in the UK. This incidentally also means that a trans man who had had phalloplasty but didn’t have a GRC, which not everyone does, would fall into the same category as Scott did. The ruling is about birth assignment and not just about what body parts you do or don’t have.
The full text of the judgement is here. TW applies on the link for transphobia and misgendering. I think this development is utterly terrifying; it criminalises consensual sexual acts between adults.
Last Wednesday one of my teachers that knows I’m trans* was talking to me in front of the class and used the wrong pronouns. 5 mins later she came up to me, handing me a really nice brand new sketch book and simply said “Merry Christmas” and walked away. I took the sketchbook and said thanks and I opened it up to find a note saying “Sorry I called you a she.” Little things like this can just make my day.
THAT’S JUST REALLY AWESOME, OKAY? OKAY.
WOW SUPER NICE
This is how I wish people handled apologizing, simply acknowledging their fuck up, saying their sorry (and meaning it), and not turning it into a public scene.
good people :)
this is nice :)
I’ve had friends tell me to call them out, embarrass them, anytime they get my pronouns wrong. Except it makes me uncomfortable and I don’t like doing that.
That looks like a really fucking nice sketchbook too
God, I love this. I always get a little choked up seeing things like this. And going back to the person who says they don’t like calling their friends out:
YEAH people out there in the world, I’d ask not to put the responsibility on your trans* friends for getting pronouns/names right but to take it on yourselves. I think it’s great that you’re supportive and want to learn as fast as possible, but it’s hard to interrupt a conversation every time a misgendering happens, with every person it happens with, every day and every place I go for the rest of my life. Sometimes it doesn’t feel worth it, and sometimes it feels like I’m overreacting. I have to make a decision if it’s worth the energy time someone slips up—or maybe they just don’t understand, and I have to decide if it’s worth the explanation or worth making it feel bad—or if it’s easier to spend the rest of the day, week, or even month feeling mildly upset and disgusted with myself for not speaking up.
Just something I’ve been thinking about after a big extended family gathering where I got a mixed bag as far as gendering goes.
do people really think there’s this sudden influx of gay/lesbian/bisexual/trans* people because it’s “hip” and “cool” now or some shit you realize that there are just as many gay/lesbian/bisexual/trans* people as there were in any point in history it’s just throughout most of history you didn’t hear about any of them because it was REALLY FUCKING UNSAFE TO BE ANY OF THOSE THINGS.
personally, i’d recommend dropping thousands of dollars on medical and legal expenses to anyone. putting yourself through the ringer mentally, physically, emotionally, financially, socially, and societally is all the rage. risking your life to have something that most people are born with is very in. very now.
My Facebook and G+ newsfeeds have been filled with pink and red lately, so it seemed important to point out to the queer and allied in my life that Human Rights Campaign actually has a track record of promoting some rights at the expense of others. Being a fairly rough-and-tumble sort of cisgender queer man, I waded in.
It’s frankly unconscionable; transgender rights are integral to queer liberation, and moreover transfolks are our sisters and brothers, have shed the same blood, sweat, and tears in horrifying numbers for the same goals. The fact that names like Virginia Prince and Sylvia Rae Rivera aren’t as prominent in our histories as Harvey Milk says, I think, all it needs to about the need for some pink and purple soul-searching. Go forth and introspect.
Visually, too, I think the HRC equality logo leaves a bit to be desired, but I made minimal changes. The colors are based on the transgender pride flag designed by Monica Helms in 1999, the most widely used of several designs and to my eye, the most pleasing.
People need to know that the most visible LGBT “equality” organization out there continues to only fight for gay and lesbian equality at the expense of everyone else.
Trans allies, please repost. (And don’t give money to HRC.)
The lack of notes on this is troubling to me.
back in march (i think?) i wrote a lot of stuff that i hated because it had no direction and wasn’t going anywhere, so i spent months not writing...
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- first time latula figured about dancestors
tbh i was inspired to do this from 1 of my comments so now I GOTTA
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drawing power from the metro lines