September 30, 2014

roane72:

worriedaboutmyfern:

This morning I’m thinking about manpain. Specifically, superhero angst.

Specifically Batman. And Captain America.

As a digression, I feel like what distinguishes “manpain” from just regular pain is not so much the man but the shooting directions. Like, you know it’s manpain when the camera goes into tight closeup on their clenched jaw, or when they are shot backlit in an alley with smoke swirling around their feet. Or with a big fire blazing behind them. Or if they are trudging through a crowded cityscape that’s all black and white and they are the only ones in color.

Case in point: this is Batman. His parents are dead. It’s very sad. He has a lot of manpain.

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Because of all his pain, Batman is not fully able to trust anyone. He pushes everyone away. Sometimes he lashes out against those closest to him.

This is Batman at Christmas time.

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Batman is not ever going to go to therapy and deal with his trust issues, or talk about whether he might have something like depression and whether it might respond to medication, even though he could definitely afford it because he is a billionaire. He’s not going to do these things because of editorial decree.

"They put on a cape and cowl for a reason," says DC co-publisher Dan Didio. "They’re committed to defending others — at the sacrifice of all their own personal instincts. That’s something we reinforce. If you look at every one of the characters in the Batman family, their personal lives kind of suck.”

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Okay. This is Captain America. His parents are dead too. Actually, almost everybody he ever knew is dead, because he got frozen for seventy years.

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(By the way if you do a Google image search for “Captain America Punching Bag,” Google will show you some stuff and will also, right at the top, helpfully prompt you with a couple other search terms that you’re probably interested in: “Chris Evans” and “Butt.”)

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(A++ Google, carry on.)

Anyway, so Captain America has a lot of manpain too.

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Because he’s grieving and lonely, Captain America works hard at forming connections with the new people he meets. He doesn’t understand their frame of cultural reference, so he diligently follows up whenever somebody gives him a book or movie or other kind of recommendation.

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He visits a support group for veterans.

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He also checks in with his teammates regularly, and makes sure they know that he cares about them. He listens to their problems and offers his support.

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So my point here is pretty simple. I think the Captain America characterization is a lot more interesting and complex. It just gets boring to have a character like Batman who is always going to have the same shit because he’s never gonna deal with his shit because he’s not allowed to deal with his shit. By contrast, Steve Rogers is warm and human and adult and fucken’ heroic. He’s got shit too but he mans up and carries it the best he can.

Both Batman and Captain America are actually team leaders, but Batman isn’t allowed to be a very good one because he also has to be a brooding loner who hangs out on top of gargoyles most of the time. Preferably in the rain.

Captain America gets rained on, too. The difference, I think, is that at some point he would go out and buy an umbrella.

Captain America gets rained on, too. The difference, I think, is that at some point he would go out and buy an umbrella.

THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS ^^^^

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September 23, 2014

eldanis:

scifigrl47:

gingerjuju:

I just don’t understand where this concept of ‘fake geek girls’ came from. Like, AT ALL.

Cus when I look for fandom related stuff like 90% of the fan art and the fanfiction and the meta, zines, comics, etc. Like 90% of the shit that I’ve seen is created by women & girls.

And all that stuff take’s a lot of work and research and critical analysis and staring at reference photos for hours.

We are literally the most well versed and invested group in the fandom. So, like, What the fuck boys? You mad you can’t keep up?

I saw an argument, and I can’t find it now, but it totally made sense, that there’s a gender split in fandom. Male fandom tends to be a curator fandom; male fandom collects, organizes, and memorizes facts and figures. Male fandom tends to be KEEPERS of the canon; the fandom places great weight on those who have the biggest collection, the deepest knowledge of obscure subjects, the first appearances, creators, character interactions.

Female fandom is creative. Females create fanart, cosplay, fanwritings. Female fandom ALTERS canon, for the simple reason that canon does not serve female fandom. In order for it to fit the ‘outsider’ (female, queer, POC), the canon must be attacked and rebuilt, and that takes creation.

"Male" fandom devalues this contribution to fandom, because it is not the ‘right’ kind of fandom. "Girls only cosplay for attention, they’re not REAL fans!" "Fanfiction is full of stupid Mary Sues, girls only do it so they can make out with the main character!" "I, a male artist, have done this pin-up work and can put it in my portfolio! You, a female artist, have drawn stupid fanart, and it’s not appropriate to use as a professional reference!"

In the mind of people who decry the ‘fake geek girl,’ this fandom is not as worthy. It damages, or in their mind, destroys the canon. What is the point of memorizing every possible romantic entanglement of heterosexual white Danny Rand if someone turns around and creates a fanwork depicting him as a bisexual female of Asian descent (thus subverting Rand’s creepy ‘white savior’ origins)? When Danny Rand becomes Dani Rand, their power is lessened. What is important to them ceases to be the focus of the discussion. Creation and curatorship can work in tandom, but typically, in fandom, they are on opposite poles.

This is not to say that there aren’t brilliant male cosplayers or smashing female trivia experts, this is to say that the need of the individual fan is met with opposing concepts: In order for me to find myself in comics, I need to make that space for myself, and that is a creative force. Het white cis males are more likely to do anything possible to defend and preserve the canon because the canon is built to cater to them.

This is a pretty astute observation, and one that holds up pretty well with my own experiences. There are definite exceptions, and I meet a lot of them at cons.

But to give a concrete example from my own local group of geek friends: back when The Avengers came out, myself and my best friend and our other closest female friend immediately wondered about the larger lives of the characters outside the films (What do they do for fun?  Who cooks on Tuesdays?  Is Thor good at karaoke?), wondered about them as people, wanted to read and create fiction, wanted to read and create meta.  We had fallen hard and fast for a world and the people in it, and wanted more, even (especially) if that meant making more ourselves.  We were inspired to create.

Our male friends?  Sat around and quoted lines from the movie at each other.  Somewhat refreshingly, they didn’t just pedantically point out differences between comics and MCU (I have witnessed and been in such conversations).  But it’s fascinating to me that their response was literally to orally catalog and preserve the media they’d just consumed.

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September 1, 2014

westerosimatriarchy:

When people say they don’t want their kids ‘influenced’ by seeing homosexuality portrayed on tv, in books, in public, etc, what they’re really saying is ‘if my kid isn’t straight, I want them to be too uneducated to understand so they’ll be forced to stay in the closet and it doesn’t become my responsibility to face things that make me uncomfortable’

(Source: dana-cardinal, via nocturnal-knight)

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August 29, 2014
The End of Gamers

dangolding:

The last few weeks in videogame culture have seen a level of combativeness more marked and bitter than any beforehand.

First, a developer—a woman who makes games who has had so much piled on to her that I don’t want to perpetuate things by naming her—was the target of a…

August 23, 2014

Anonymous said: hi, i'm sorry if this has been asked but in your powerpoint you said that the tumblr sj community is guilty of antisemitism. what kind of things has it done? also, i love your blog!

beyondthetaffrail:

returnofthejudai:

debigotizer:

I’ll take this one since I’m the blog’s resident Jew.  Oy vey, where do I start…

  • SJ community loves to police Jewish identity and silence actual Jews when they talk about their own identities.  This usually happens in context of either “Are Jews White?” or “Jewishness is just a religion” conversations.  In reality, Jews are an ethnoreligious group that ethnically originated in the middle east, and while some ethnic Jews have light skin, it’s actually due to centuries of forced assimilation in European and Slavic countries through rape, which is a big reason why Jewishness is matrilineal.  Furthermore, there exist Jews who do not look white at all.  There are black, brown, and asian Jews who are all ethnically Jewish, and these conversations erase them.
  • "Jewish privilege".  Fact: It’s not a thing.  It’s actually a very common anti-semitic trope that says that Jews run everything so they are not oppressed.  Jews are oppressed, and face anti-semitic violence.
  • "Anti-semitism is not just about Jews, there are other semitic people." While yea, there are other semitic people, the term "anti-semitism" was created by Germans in the 19th century to refer specifically to the hatred of Jews because it sounded more scientific.
  • Blaming anti-semitic violence in Europe on the actions of Israel.  I see this literally every single day on this site, and it’s very upsetting.  Jews that live in the diaspora are not responsible for Israel’s actions, and especially should not be suffering at the hands of white people in Europe under the guise of anti-zionism.  
  • Finally, and this is a big pet peeve of mine.  The only people I ever see reblogging posts about anti-semitism are other Jews.  Even a lot of my non-Jewish followers will reblog posts about racism, sexism, homophobia, etc. but ignore posts about anti-semitism, and that as a Jew makes me feel unsafe. 

That’s enough for now.  If you’re interested in learning more about Jewish identity and anti-semitism, you are welcome to check out my personal blog: yochevedke.  I discuss that stuff a lot.  

-Yeva

Another Jew reblogging about anti-semitism. I’ve seen some increase in concern about this from goyim, but it’s been slow going. Hopefully we’ll pick up a big head of steam soon.

"The only people I ever see reblogging posts about anti-semitism are other Jews. Even a lot of my non-Jewish followers will reblog posts about racism, sexism, homophobia, etc. but ignore posts about anti-semitism, and that as a Jew makes me feel unsafe."

the amount with which this point in particular resonates with me is unreal

June 6, 2014
"If you were a computer-loving male child who took a lot of shit from your peers, I suspect you heard something similar from the adults in your life. Maybe it was “Sure, things are bad now, but when you’re a little bit older, women will LOVE guys like you!” Or maybe it was “That kid who makes fun of you now will be working at a gas station when you run a big fancy computer company and marry a supermodel!” If you were once young, nerdy and male, it is not unlikely that your future sense of self-worth was funded with a non-consensual IOU from the world’s women. It’s taken me a long time, but at this point I genuinely believe that much of this “GEEKS SHALL INHERIT THE EARTH” rhetoric is little more than patriarchy’s bespectacled wingman. It excuses the pain that systems of power exert on children by promising little boys future dominion over little girls. It is deeply and massively fucked."

What (Else) Can Men Do? Grow The Fuck Up. — Medium (via erikalynae)

That whole “they’ll be serving you fries and you’ll be a rich big shot” rhetoric is super classist too. Being poor/working in a minimum wage service role is not a punishment for past wrongs, and it’s really fucked up that we act like it is/should be.

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August 12, 2013
thefrogman:

I think the time for opinions is over. I’m sick of people having opinions on whether or not they should respect fellow human beings.
In my mind there are only facts. It is a fact that they should be treated and respected the same as everyone else. They deserve all the same rights and privileges. It’s really not that complicated and it boggles my mind that there are people trying to prevent that from happening. 

thefrogman:

I think the time for opinions is over. I’m sick of people having opinions on whether or not they should respect fellow human beings.

In my mind there are only facts. It is a fact that they should be treated and respected the same as everyone else. They deserve all the same rights and privileges. It’s really not that complicated and it boggles my mind that there are people trying to prevent that from happening. 

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July 7, 2013
anarcho-queer:

middlemarching:

anarcho-queer:

While the head honchos at the HRC are making 6 figure salaries from donations to support ‘marriage equality’, hundreds of thousands of LGBTQ youth are homeless and are purposely ignored by mainstream gay organizations. The ‘fight’ for same sex marriage has proven to be a profitable business for gay ‘non-profit’ businesses, so it’s no wonder why gay marriage overshadows all other LGBTQ issues. After all, helping the needy results in smaller pay.
Supporting gay marriage doesn’t mean you support the queer struggle. In fact, most ‘allies’ and even a large portion of more fortunate queers don’t know the facts about LGBTQ homelessness, violence against trans* people, high unemployment, discrimination, etc, nor do they bother to research it. They are just concerned about their favorite gay celebrities being able to tie the knot.
If you care about the queer struggle, take a minute of your day to familiarize yourself with some of the disturbing statistics:
20- 40% of homeless youth are LGBTQ. In comparison, the general youth population is only 3-10% LGBTQ.
LGBTQ youth are twice as likely to experience sexual abuse before the age of 12.
LGBTQ youth, once homeless, are at higher risk for victimization, mental health problems, and unsafe sexual practices. 58.7% of LGBTQ homeless youth have been sexually victimized compared to 33.4% of heterosexual homeless youth
LGBTQ youth are roughly 7.4 times more likely to experience acts of sexual violence than heterosexual homeless youth
LGBTQ homeless youth commit suicide at higher rates (62%) than heterosexual homeless youth (29%)
At least 20% of ALL transgender people will be homeless sometime in their life.
29% of transgender people reported being turned away from a homeless shelter due to their transgender status.
Please consider taking action to help combat LGBTQ homelessness. I suggest making a donation to the Ali Forney Center or volunteering at your local LGBTQ homeless shelter.
P.S. Fuck the HRC!

I will always plug GLBT Advocacy & Youth Services every time a post like this comes across my dashboard. It is a new organization but is making enormous strides in North Alabama, and also includes a host home program for youth caught in the 18/19 age gap that can financially ruin so many queer youth. (In the state of Alabama, you are not legally recognized as an adult until you are nineteen years old, meaning that if you are kicked out of your house by your parents at age eighteen, you can’t sign a lease on an apartment.)

Reblogging for the commentary and to add a list of LGBTQ homeless shelters and support services. If you know of any other states/cities/towns with LGBTQ shelters, please add on to the list with a link.


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anarcho-queer:

middlemarching:

anarcho-queer:

While the head honchos at the HRC are making 6 figure salaries from donations to support ‘marriage equality’, hundreds of thousands of LGBTQ youth are homeless and are purposely ignored by mainstream gay organizations. The ‘fight’ for same sex marriage has proven to be a profitable business for gay ‘non-profit’ businesses, so it’s no wonder why gay marriage overshadows all other LGBTQ issues. After all, helping the needy results in smaller pay.

Supporting gay marriage doesn’t mean you support the queer struggle. In fact, most ‘allies’ and even a large portion of more fortunate queers don’t know the facts about LGBTQ homelessness, violence against trans* people, high unemployment, discrimination, etc, nor do they bother to research it. They are just concerned about their favorite gay celebrities being able to tie the knot.

If you care about the queer struggle, take a minute of your day to familiarize yourself with some of the disturbing statistics:

  • 20- 40% of homeless youth are LGBTQ. In comparison, the general youth population is only 3-10% LGBTQ.
  • LGBTQ youth are twice as likely to experience sexual abuse before the age of 12.
  • LGBTQ youth, once homeless, are at higher risk for victimization, mental health problems, and unsafe sexual practices. 58.7% of LGBTQ homeless youth have been sexually victimized compared to 33.4% of heterosexual homeless youth
  • LGBTQ youth are roughly 7.4 times more likely to experience acts of sexual violence than heterosexual homeless youth
  • LGBTQ homeless youth commit suicide at higher rates (62%) than heterosexual homeless youth (29%)
  • At least 20% of ALL transgender people will be homeless sometime in their life.
  • 29% of transgender people reported being turned away from a homeless shelter due to their transgender status.

Please consider taking action to help combat LGBTQ homelessness. I suggest making a donation to the Ali Forney Center or volunteering at your local LGBTQ homeless shelter.

P.S. Fuck the HRC!

I will always plug GLBT Advocacy & Youth Services every time a post like this comes across my dashboard. It is a new organization but is making enormous strides in North Alabama, and also includes a host home program for youth caught in the 18/19 age gap that can financially ruin so many queer youth. (In the state of Alabama, you are not legally recognized as an adult until you are nineteen years old, meaning that if you are kicked out of your house by your parents at age eighteen, you can’t sign a lease on an apartment.)

Reblogging for the commentary and to add a list of LGBTQ homeless shelters and support services. If you know of any other states/cities/towns with LGBTQ shelters, please add on to the list with a link.

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July 1, 2013

babyshibe:

UK court confirms: stealth trans people having sex are criminals.

The background: a trans man had sex with a cis woman. Both parties were over the age of consent (which is 16 in the UK). Both parties stated consent at the time. The sex involved genital contact and penetration with tongue and fingers, but did not involve penis-in-vagina sex; there is therefore no ‘deception’ along the lines of ‘he inserted a strap-on and told me it was flesh-and-blood’. The man has now been prosecuted for ‘sex by deception’ because he didn’t disclose his assigned gender, and lost his appeal against this sentence. 

In the UK, case law has set a precedent that having sex without disclosing HIV positivity, wealth, age or marital status does not invalidate consent. That is, if you have sex with someone who you believe to be a HIV-negative, rich, single 30-year-old man and he informs you the next day that he’s a HIV-positive, poor, married 50-year-old, there is nothing that can be legally done; you consented and that’s that. This does not apply to trans status. It is illegal not to disclose that you were female-assigned but not illegal not to disclose that you have HIV. Furthermore, it’s not enough to just say this - it needs to be provable in a court of law. Written consent is thus basically required.

It’s unclear whether a trans person who has a GRC (legal recognition on their birth certificate of a change of gender) could be prosecuted, but evidently just being trans is insufficient - the man in this case has done enough to be protected under trans equality law in the UK. This incidentally also means that a trans man who had had phalloplasty but didn’t have a GRC, which not everyone does, would fall into the same category as Scott did. The ruling is about birth assignment and not just about what body parts you do or don’t have.

The full text of the judgement is here. TW applies on the link for transphobia and misgendering. I think this development is utterly terrifying; it criminalises consensual sexual acts between adults.

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May 13, 2013
quillusquillus:

drowningxlessons:

padfootxvx:

theuppitynegras:

thedalekmaster:

transgalacticwanderer:

innuendorose:

stridersis:

artificially-gendered:

Last Wednesday one of my teachers that knows I’m trans* was talking to me in front of the class and used the wrong pronouns. 5 mins later she came up to me, handing me a really nice brand new sketch book and simply said “Merry Christmas” and walked away. I took the sketchbook and said thanks and I opened it up to find a note saying “Sorry I called you a she.” Little things like this can just make my day.

THAT’S JUST REALLY AWESOME, OKAY?  OKAY.

WOW SUPER NICE

This is how I wish people handled apologizing, simply acknowledging their fuck up, saying their sorry (and meaning it), and not turning it into a public scene.

good people :)

this is nice :)

I’ve had friends tell me to call them out, embarrass them, anytime they get my pronouns wrong. Except it makes me uncomfortable and I don’t like doing that.

AW

That looks like a really fucking nice sketchbook too

God, I love this. I always get a little choked up seeing things like this. And going back to the person who says they don’t like calling their friends out:
YEAH people out there in the world, I’d ask not to put the responsibility on your trans* friends for getting pronouns/names right but to take it on yourselves. I think it’s great that you’re supportive and want to learn as fast as possible, but it’s hard to interrupt a conversation every time a misgendering happens, with every person it happens with, every day and every place I go for the rest of my life. Sometimes it doesn’t feel worth it, and sometimes it feels like I’m overreacting. I have to make a decision if it’s worth the energy time someone slips up—or maybe they just don’t understand, and I have to decide if it’s worth the explanation or worth making it feel bad—or if it’s easier to spend the rest of the day, week, or even month feeling mildly upset and disgusted with myself for not speaking up.
Just something I’ve been thinking about after a big extended family gathering where I got a mixed bag as far as gendering goes.

quillusquillus:

drowningxlessons:

padfootxvx:

theuppitynegras:

thedalekmaster:

transgalacticwanderer:

innuendorose:

stridersis:

artificially-gendered:

Last Wednesday one of my teachers that knows I’m trans* was talking to me in front of the class and used the wrong pronouns. 5 mins later she came up to me, handing me a really nice brand new sketch book and simply said “Merry Christmas” and walked away. I took the sketchbook and said thanks and I opened it up to find a note saying “Sorry I called you a she.” Little things like this can just make my day.

THAT’S JUST REALLY AWESOME, OKAY?  OKAY.

WOW SUPER NICE

This is how I wish people handled apologizing, simply acknowledging their fuck up, saying their sorry (and meaning it), and not turning it into a public scene.

good people :)

this is nice :)

I’ve had friends tell me to call them out, embarrass them, anytime they get my pronouns wrong. Except it makes me uncomfortable and I don’t like doing that.

AW

That looks like a really fucking nice sketchbook too

God, I love this. I always get a little choked up seeing things like this. And going back to the person who says they don’t like calling their friends out:

YEAH people out there in the world, I’d ask not to put the responsibility on your trans* friends for getting pronouns/names right but to take it on yourselves. I think it’s great that you’re supportive and want to learn as fast as possible, but it’s hard to interrupt a conversation every time a misgendering happens, with every person it happens with, every day and every place I go for the rest of my life. Sometimes it doesn’t feel worth it, and sometimes it feels like I’m overreacting. I have to make a decision if it’s worth the energy time someone slips up—or maybe they just don’t understand, and I have to decide if it’s worth the explanation or worth making it feel bad—or if it’s easier to spend the rest of the day, week, or even month feeling mildly upset and disgusted with myself for not speaking up.

Just something I’ve been thinking about after a big extended family gathering where I got a mixed bag as far as gendering goes.

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